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5 Tips for Loving a Health Nut




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December 9, 2014 by Andrea Fabry 14 Comments

Do you have a friend or family member who is into healthy food and natural living? Do you feel they are a bit “over the top”? Are you planning a holiday gathering and already feeling the angst of two conflicting lifestyles?

How to love a health nut

I’m writing this as one who used to think “natural living” people were crazy. Our family of 11 was doing just fine the way we were. Here’s what I thought of health fanatics – especially parents:

“Lighten up. Stop scarring your children by depriving them of normalcy.”

Our lives took an unexpected turn in 2008 and within a matter of months I had become one of “those people”. (Read more about our journey here.)

We took out processed foods, replaced store-bought eggs with pastured ones, and cooked meals from scratch. I questioned Western medical practices and explored herbal remedies.  I felt the derision of family and friends.

Having been on both sides of the health fence I offer these five suggestions for loving the “health nut” in your life.

1. Ask supportive questions

There are condemning questions and there are supportive ones. Sometimes it’s a look, or a sigh, but when I feel questioned as a mom it pains me deeply. If possible, contain the skepticism and ask questions like,

  • How can I support you when you’re here?
  • Is there anything I can have on hand that would help?
  • What foods would you like me to have?
  • Is there a recipe I can try?
  • Would you like me to use a different detergent while you’re here?
  • Would it help if I didn’t use scented candles?

You can’t lose with these questions. This creates an openness that will help diffuse the inevitable tension that arises when two lifestyles collide.

2. Be open

Even if your loved one is overzealous, keep an open mind. Take advantage of their experience and let your mind entertain new ways of thinking. Listen with an open heart. The relational benefits that result may surprise you.

You can never lose having an open mind:

‘The mind that opens to a new idea never returns to its original size.”  – Albert Einstein

3. Don’t be afraid to ask for help

Do you feel overwhelmed trying to accommodate your loved one’s lifestyle? Be honest without blaming. Ask for suggestions. Can’t afford grassfed beef or organic food? Ask your family member to bring a dish to contribute.  In the early days of our dietary transition I welcomed the opportunity to bring food. Work together to make the gathering pleasant for everyone involved.

4. Be sensitive to children

Leave the children out of any potential conflict. Avoid offering a treat to a child and then asking the mom for permission. Find out ahead of time what the child can or can’t have. Even if you think the child is missing out, honor the parent by listening to their wishes. Imagine the positive impact for the child who is spared the discomfort of feeling in the middle.

 5. Remember what matters

Think how rewarding it will be to honor and support your loved one. Even if you feel judged for your differences, or you disagree with their decisions, try putting the relationship ahead of all else. Do your best to absorb any attempt to get you to change and believe the best about them. Health people like myself get super-excited about the topic and can share more information than is appropriate for the situation.

Family events can be challenging even when there aren’t opposing lifestyles! Give each other space and stay true to yourself. You may have one of the most memorable and joyous gatherings yet!

 

 

 

 

 

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Comments

  1. Kim says

    December 9, 2014 at 11:59 am

    And WHERE did you get that nasty cupcake? Ugh…bet it’s been a long time since you’ve held food coloring like that! Very cute sibling picture 🙂

    Reply
    • Andrea Fabry says

      December 9, 2014 at 4:59 pm

      You’re right – haven’t held one in many moons. The list of ingredients shocked us! It’s made in a bakery, so I would have expected a shorter list.

      Reply
  2. Emily @ Recipes to Nourish says

    December 9, 2014 at 4:56 pm

    Thanks for sharing these tips. I have been looked at as one of “those” people before. I am grateful my husband and I are on the same page, that helps 🙂

    Reply
    • Andrea Fabry says

      December 9, 2014 at 5:00 pm

      Yes, it really helps when your spouse is on board!

      Reply
  3. Renee Kohley says

    December 9, 2014 at 5:22 pm

    This is a great message. I struggle with some of our family gatherings sometimes because I don’t do a lot of compromising so I end up bringing a lot of “our” food with us. I feel awkward but it is always worth it knowing my girls aren’t getting fed junk.

    Reply
    • Andrea Fabry says

      December 11, 2014 at 7:00 am

      I can only imagine the foods you bring, Renee. I would think everyone there would want them. 🙂

      Reply
  4. linda Spiker says

    December 9, 2014 at 7:08 pm

    Love this! You know you have crossed over when the photo of the hydrogenated oil and artificial color of a cupcake makes you want to retch! Lol. Great post!

    Reply
    • Andrea Fabry says

      December 11, 2014 at 7:00 am

      So true, Linda!

      Reply
  5. Jessica says

    December 9, 2014 at 7:31 pm

    Great post and I totally love that image! 🙂

    Reply
    • Andrea Fabry says

      December 11, 2014 at 6:57 am

      I’ll tell my models 🙂

      Reply
  6. Chloe @ How We Flourish says

    December 10, 2014 at 11:35 am

    LOVE this post. I have a few people in my life that should read it.

    Reply
    • Andrea Fabry says

      December 11, 2014 at 6:59 am

      Thanks Chloe. Having been on both sides, I relate to both.

      Reply
  7. Susan says

    December 20, 2014 at 12:43 am

    Thank you very much for this article Andrea. It’s so practical. I also have several people I’d love to share this article with.

    Reply
    • Andrea Fabry says

      December 20, 2014 at 6:31 am

      Thank you Susan.I appreciate that.

      Reply

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I am a certified Building Biology Advocate, a former journalist, mother of nine, and avid CrossFitter who likes to think outside the box. After our family's health crisis in 2008, I learned to ask questions about what's in our food, our water, and our air. I hope to empower you as you seek to live safely in a complex world. Thankfully, small steps lead to big changes. Let's travel this road together, one step at a time.

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